De-realization
De-realization:
A feeling that one’s surroundings are not real. A feeling of distance,
emotionally and physically. The ineptitude to perceive one’s own existence and
the existence of others. The failure to discern reality from imagination. The
fruitless triumphs one shall undergo to devoid themselves of nothingness. The
unwanted removal of feeling, love, and a sense of reality. All of these definitions
immaculately describe the sorrow I underwent. The sorrow that burdened me as if
it lasted three score and four years. It’s impossible to comprehend, even if
you’ve experienced it for yourself.
“If you are going
through hell, keep going”
-Winston Churchill
Incomprehension
I was always one
to prefer the caliginosity of the night and its peacefulness. However, that
night was a contrast. There I lay in my bed, gaze narrowing, mind drifting. I
was practically asleep when it all began. What if there is no God? The
words pummeled me. Emotions I had never once experienced panged me as the
thought grew upon me. The intrusive thought echoed, but not quite; an echo
grows quieter. An echo dies off. However, this thought grew louder and louder
as it tore apart my conscience. I fought the thought away, but I was accosted
yet again. What if there is no God? A question a mere mortal could not
answer. It was far beyond my comprehension. I began to panic, but not quite.
Panic is the sense of fleeting common sense and adrenaline.
What I was feeling
was indescribable. Describing this emotion accurately would be as difficult as
imagining a new color: nearly impossible. My face was still, as if it was
encased in stone. I gazed at the empty ceiling as if I had seen a ghastly
being. I envisioned my soul transcending into the cyclic void. The question
sparked something infinitely deeper than I had previously thought. I had
pondered God's existence before. It wasn’t nearly as intrusive. Upon
questioning God’s existence, I would brush it off. I believe the difference
this time around was that I began questioning the underlying consequences of a
nonexistent God. As a child, death was my greatest fear. However, the existence
of a heaven comforted that fear. If there was no heaven and no God, then what
comes after life? That’s what shook me to the core. Tears dribbled down my
cheeks all through the night like a leaky faucet, nonstop.
“Someday,
everything will make perfect sense. So for now, laugh at
the confusion,
smile through the tears, and keep reminding yourself that
everything happens for a reason.”
-Anonymous
Uncertainty
I awoke the next
morning with white streaks running down my cheeks from the tears. Something was
off; I could feel it. A feeling of detachment clung to my being like a
parasite. Streaks of light beamed through my window. I would often feel
relieved to see the morning’s blessing upon my window; today was a contrast.
The beauty that was once there was gone. The once beautifully golden beams of
sunshine now appeared dull and empty.
I arose from the
comfort of my bed and embarked on a day of uncertainty. Everything around me
was familiar yet distant all at once. I missed the sense of touch and feel that
was once present. The feeling of my bare feet caressing my cold floor had
disappeared. The feeling of tiredness that lingered after waking up was no
longer there. I felt scared, and alone.
I didn’t want to,
but I forced myself to get myself prepared for the long day ahead of me. Every
second was a struggle; every second was uncertain. I constantly thought about
my existence. I don’t understand. Am I real? Is anything real? I forced
myself to hold back the oncoming tears.
As I entered the
shower, my bottom lip began to tremble. There was no warmth. The once steamily
hot water was now cold, but not quite; cold is the opposite of warm, but what I
was experiencing wasn’t the sensation of cold. It was indescribable, nearly
impossible to comprehend myself. A lone tear trickled down my cheek. It became
indistinguishable amongst the heavy flow of water, similar to my senses. I
failed to distinguish love from hate, happiness from sadness, light from
darkness, and worst of all, reality from imagination. My conscience began to
dismantle itself as the unfamiliar water caressed my body, also, very
unfamiliar.
The obnoxious yet
effervescent conversations that panged my eardrums on the morning bus ride fell
upon deaf ears. My mind was somewhere distant. It was as if my very soul was
attempting to communicate with me from somewhere beyond. Time moved as if it
was molasses but not nearly as sweet. These were dark times for me to endure.
“Never
stop because you feel defeated. The journey to the other side is attainable
only after great suffering”
-Santosh
Kalwar
Isolation
It was the day
after winter break came to an end. Children began to chatter aloud whilst we
awaited the arrival of our teachers. I traversed into the naive sea of
students. A prodigious sense of poignancy coursed through my veins. The sense
of isolation unleashed havoc on my mental state of mind. Look at all of
these kids glimmering with joly ole glee! You wish you could be like them, don’t
you? You long for the sense of reality, don’t you? Pathetic. The sense of
reality began to linger from somewhere beyond; it was as if reality was the
comforting smell of a distant barbeque; you acknowledge the scent but can’t
seem to figure out where it’s coming from and what it truly is.
Children blitzed
into the cafeteria as if they were a pack of hyenas, feet stomping, mouths
chomping. The sound of wet sneakers pierced my ears as the shoes of many slid
across the glossy floors. The light began to fade, darker yet darker, until the
apex dawned upon me. I was abandoned like a dog in a cage, except the dog apprehended
itself. Noise rang out, a familiar one. The muffled noise transformed into an
optimistic voice, “It’s my birthday.” I couldn’t care less. I truthfully
despised to hear the once euphonious news.
The optimistic voice was my friend, Jack. A year ago I would’ve been
delighted to hear the pleasant news; this year was a contrast. Instead of
responding and congratulating him for yet another year of life, I glowered. I
never knew the isolation the absence of emotion could wreak upon a soul.
I continued the
rest of my day in complete silence.
“Like
all things, triumph is rewarded with the blessing of progression. You must
learn and overcome, failure is inevitable otherwise”
-Anonymous
Freedom
The clutch of the
crimson hands was unprecedented. I drowned in the chronic cries of laughter as
the nightmarish figures chanted harmoniously in pure hatred. I attempted to
escape the everlasting grasp, yet my attempts were futile, or so I thought. The
devilish bellows haunted the darkest corner of my existence. I pleaded for the
torments to cease, yet my triumphs were fruitless. The wicked warlock descended
from his throne. He sent a blazing inferno coursing through my body, writhing
me in pain. He gazed into my being with wide, amused eyes. I thought there was
no escape. As the torture continued I drove myself further and further from the
people I loved. Little did I know that the face of evil before me was nothing
but myself.
I never came to
the realization that I was raging war on myself. There was no enemy but myself.
In order to put an end to my agony and devoid myself of nothingness, I had to
delve further. I had to delve to the depths of my sanity to find the source of
my pain. Repetition. An epiphany struck me as if it was lightning. I
encountered a sudden flashback, a flashback tracing back to the beginning of
the madness. What was it that frightened me the most? The cyclic void.
I was astounded
with my realization. The clock ticked periodically with the passing of time as
I slowly drifted back to the place I belonged. Reality.
Reflection
As I grow
physically, I grow mentally. Writing this essay helped me progress as a person
and unlock my repressed memories. My mind attempted to shut out the damning
memories, but history repeats itself. We can create a better future by
remembering the horrid past. I intend for this essay to serve as a message to
anyone struggling with mental health: there’s always a light at the end of the
tunnel. However obvious that may seem, it’s true. No matter how difficult it is
to break free, persevere. If I could do it then, so can you. Don’t let the cold
darkness of the night prevent you from feeling the warmth of the sun.
-Judah